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Human Nature
Our human nature - Now we are getting down and personal! This is how we act and react with others around us - our interpersonal relationships, our patterns of behaviour. In other words - the games we play. It is our personality in action, our choices of relationship type. Note : Your behavior patterns are a matter of choice, your choice. We all have our human nature issues! I am discussing behaviors to which we seem to be addicted. These are not addictions to addictive (or otherwise) substances - drugs, alcohol, nicotine etc. For those you can get help. The process of addiction is the same - an emotional rush from hormones and peptides to the cells of our body. It matters little to our body whether the source of the rush is external substances or internally produced hormonal stimulants. Addiction is characterized by the repeated use of substances or behaviour patterns to achieve a high. So whether the high is produced by substances or behaviour, the addiction is to the feeling. Human Nature note : The cause of all addictions is anxiety - an uneasy feeling that is temporarily masked or tranquilized by some substance or behavior!
Gary Craig - Founder of EFT.  Try these for size :
Why do we find ourselves in these situations again and again - because we are addicted to them. Why do we think that life would be dull without a good argument or conflict or whatever? Does it makes life more exciting? Could we live life with out a little drama? If we didn't talk compulsively would we fade away, not be noticed? If we were not right all the time, might we be judged to be inferior or un-interesting? Isn't this our personality? Might we lose our personality if we were less exciting? But - but - but ..... Thus we precipitate situations which are tailor made to pander to our addictions - we play games! Ok, so it’s only human nature, but remember – it’s your choice. Remember the lower three levels of consciousness :
Well guess where these addictions place us? Again and again we manifest situations which cater to our addictions. Step back and take a look at the situations which keep re-occurring in your life. Could it be that there is a lesson there. I'm sure there was nothing in your meaning of life contract that said you had to go round in circles! It is normal to create a comfort zone in which we feel secure and free to pursue our behavioral addictions. We select our friends and condition our family to support our addictions and play our games. Of course this is a reciprocal arrangement, in turn we are expected to support their addictions and play their games. In fact when we try to step outside our comfort zone, to change and grow, we are likely to be met with hostility - for wanting to be different, not one of the gang, -it's not like that in 'our' family etc... It is your choice. At any time you can choose not to play those games. You will probably be regarded as a so and so individual - however it's your life. Are you going to live it your way, or have others live it for you!? That decision is one of personal developments little dilemmas. When dealing with people outside our family and circle of friends, outside our comfort zone, we can be polite, understanding and helpful. Strangers do not place the same human nature expectations on us as the family and friends - we do not have to play our little power games. For those of you who live in a "personality culture", note that your personality is you shining through. It is not some game or identity that you project as the occasion demands! Further Resources :
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